Becoming Her: How to Reconnect With the Woman You Were Before Motherhood
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You’re still in there—the woman who dreamed big, danced freely, and laughed until her belly hurt.
She may be buried under routines, responsibilities, and “mom mode,” but she never left.
Now? It’s time to bring her back.
Not by undoing motherhood—but by remembering you’re a woman, too.
Why So Many Moms Feel Disconnected From Themselves
When your days revolve around diapers, schedules, snacks, school runs, and emotional triage… it’s easy to forget your own needs. Over time, your identity blurs into “mom.”
But you were someone before you were theirs.
And you still deserve to be her.
Signs You've Lost Touch With That Woman
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You don’t remember your hobbies
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You hesitate when someone asks what you want
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You feel guilt just thinking about doing something alone
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You feel like a “shadow version” of your old self
This isn’t selfishness. It’s soul hunger.
3 Ways to Reconnect With the Woman You Used to Be (and Evolve Her)
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Create Space for Her to Breathe
Take one hour a week for something that brings you alive—art, movement, music, solitude. No multitasking allowed. -
Revisit an Old Version of Joy
What did you love before motherhood? Start small: dance in the kitchen, write a poem, call an old friend. Let her out in tiny bursts. -
Give Her a New Voice
Journal to your past self: “What do you need? What are you craving? What are you ready to become?”
Then let your current self answer.
“The woman you were is the foundation of the woman you’re becoming.” — Unknown
What the Research Says
A 2023 study in The Journal of Identity and Mental Wellness found that mothers who actively maintain or revive personal passions report greater emotional fulfillment, improved mental clarity, and stronger relationships—including with their children.
Quote to Live By:
“You are not just a mom. You are a woman with a name, a voice, a story—and it’s still unfolding.” — Barbara Verónica 💛
You don’t have to choose between motherhood and selfhood.
You get to be both—nurturing them and honoring you.
Because the more you reconnect with your wholeness, the more fully you show up—for everyone.
Welcome back. You’ve always been here.